expect nothing

Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.
– Alexander Pope

Bah Humbug!

OH MY! So I wrote this the day after Thanksgiving with every intent to share it at the end of November, but time went a bit faster than I expected and well my family got the FLU this season. so that pretty much wiped me out for a couple weeks which was all of the beginning of December.


The last couple of years we have had the privilege of getting our family pictures taken while we cut our Christmas tree. I absolute love this new tradition that we have started + I love capturing the kids excitement while they run around looking for the perfect tree. But this year ended up being a little different. I knew what I wanted, I knew where I wanted to go, and I had unintentionally created expectations for the experience. The year before we went to the most perfect tree farm with rolling hills of christmas trees, a beautiful firepit, Santa cozied up in his warm shack, and a delicious cocoa bar that my kids went crazy for. 


This year I got a rude awaking about my attitude + my natural ability to ruin my day by allowing myself to get caught up with my expectations for the day. I had such a difficult time not being stuck on how I wanted things that I couldn’t enjoy the presence of everyone around me + the activity we were doing. Okay. Let me give you the short story. Went to the WRONG Christmas tree farm. Ha! I know this doesn’t sound like a big deal to most of you guys. But I literally had already mapped out in my head where I wanted pictures + on top of that we ended up at one of the busiest tree farms, granted it was the day after thanksgiving so I’m sure every farm was busy, but roll with me… I think the other element of it all was that the grandparents were in town for a special holiday trip. I just wanted them to experience the joy of our fun tradition.  So there it is, I know, I’m whining, but that is what I mean by expectations. By setting expectations you are allowing yourself the opportunity for disappointment which will kill any joy.


There have been so many times where I have let my expectations steal a joyous moment. I put unrealistic expectations on myself, the kids, my husband, and all the events around the holidays. So I’m going to absolutely try my hardest to not get caught up in what I want for the holidays, but enjoy what the holiday brings to me. I have spent so many holidays upset, or in tears, whether it was the hope to travel to see my family, or that I would be invited to a Christmas party, all my dropped hints for gift ideas ignored, kids behaving poorly while out at a special holiday event, the event of the year, but couldn’t find a sitter…yup! All of these. Ha! yesss…. all of those real life events. lol. Just pulling from my life experiences.


I hate that my sour attitude stole precious time from being with my family + just enjoying the special hunt for our tree. I got over it eventually. But it would have been wonderful to not have begun our experience with an expectation to begin with.


I guess what I’m trying to say is: Let’s step into this Holiday Season letting go of ALL expectations so that we can ENJOY whatever sweet moments we can BIG or SMALL.


a huge thank you to Emily DeKoster for coming out to take our family photos! you are literally DA BEST!

xo -ray

ps. please enjoy the rest of these fun family pictures :)