Finding Balance

“THE CRITICAL PART OF A BALANCE IN LIFE IS CHOOSING PRIORITIES. IF YOU ARE TRYING TO BALANCE A FAMILY AND A CAREER, THE CHOICES ARE COMPLEX BECAUSE BOTH ARE IMPORTANT.” 

– BYRON PULSIFER

***warning I had been planning on posting these pictures before the holidays + well it never happened...I blame it on the arrival of snow + the craziness the holidays ensue. but I love them + I wanted to share them with you because these humans are mine.

I wouldn’t say I am officially a working stay-at-home mom, but I’ve been doing a bit of photography, blogging, and collaborating with businesses which has kept me busy. I would definitely like this to be a source of income for my family, but realize I need to put the work in first. I feel incredibly grateful for this growing season + all the opportunities that have come my way this year. However, as my business has grown, my peace at home has lessened.

I absolutely love being a stay at home mom + all the freedom that comes with that. Yes, it tends to be overwhelming, exhausting, but so rewarding. There is no such thing as lunch breaks or sick days…you are on the clock 24/7. And even though this job is so fulfilling I knew that God has been calling me to step into more + has placed this desire in my heart for quite some time.

I am still in my first year of blogging so I still have so much to learn. I knew it was something I wanted to pursue consistently this year, but it can also be an area of stress for me. 

Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom

As things have started to pick up on my blog, my priorities for it have become imbalanced. I could see my home suffering + the peace slipping from my fingers. And yes, there are other unforeseen heartaches happening in our family that is out our control which has stirred up our peace, but I knew that wasn’t the only factor.

I had been praying incessantly that God would give me perspective on areas I needed to change + that He would give me clear vision to recognize where my priorities should be. And as hard as it was to hear He made it clear to me that I had been neglecting Him and giving my personal desires all my attention.

So, I decided that I would sit down + write out where all my time was going in order from most to least. This is what I came up with:

  • Instagram/Blog
  • Kids
  • Friends
  • Marriage
  • Housework
  • God
  • Self-care

Ummm…yea! this was so eye opening for me. How did my priorities get so backwards? So then I proceeded to write them out how I knew they should be.

  • God
  • Marriage
  • Kids
  • Housework
  • Self-Care
  • Friends
  • IG/Blog
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom

I noticed that blogging seeped in all areas of my life, encapsulated every part of my brain. It was leaving no mental energy for my husband, kids, or even my home. I would turn every adventure into an Instagram post.

So the first thing I started doing was using a calendar for not just my monthly plans, but for planning + prioritizing my days. And that needed to start by adding a good HOUR of devotions with God as well as undistracted time with my husband + children. Date nights are currently quite difficult for us, but our solution is to start using one of my open mornings to try to grab breakfast or coffee, instead of filling them all up with meet-ups or blog writing (actually start having a weekly mini date).

I know this isn’t the case for everyone, but if my home feels messy, unorganized, and unkempt, I begin to have serious anxiety just being in my home. And if it feels too overwhelming to tackle, I have the tendency to take the unhealthy approach + avoid it by leaving the house. I have tried doing a rotating house cleaning list + for whatever reason they don’t work for me.

But I have started making it a priority that as a family we are all to pitch in cleaning up after dinner + making sure everyone picking up their things before heading to bed. Then, I will take a moment to clean up the rest, but at that point the workload feels manageable + can still find time in the evening to rest, spend time with Tim, and maybe do a little writing. 

Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom

It has become crucial to start blocking off designated time for blogging so that it doesn’t take over the rest of my day and/or life. haha. But now that I have created a more structured schedule for myself I still feel like I can put time into my work without the rest of my priorities falling through the cracks.  The amount of peace that has come in just the last few weeks of implementing blocked schedules and rearranging where I spend my time has been incredible. There has been a lot more peace + rest in our home.

So if you are finding yourself feeling overwhelmed + stuck. Take a moment + figure out where all your time is going. Are you being productive with your time? Where would you like to be investing more time? And where are the areas in your life that feel the most out of control? Or suffering? And start figuring out your priorities + how to best give your time to them. 

Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom
Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom

I hope this is a little helpful. I’m still trying to figure this all out but what I do know is that if you seek God for counsel He will give you the answers. You may not like them, but He will make them known to you.  

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” James 1:5

 

a HUGE thank you to my good friend Josh Schripsema (IG: @joshschripsema)for these amazing images of our tree cutting

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Finding peace and balance as a working stay-at-home mom